5 Things You Shouldn’t Do If He’s Cheats on You

The first thing that you want to
do when you find out that your
man has stepped out on you is
kick his ass. It’s not an easy thing
to control your emotions, but there
are three things you want to work
on when you are sure (preferably
with evidence):
- Take back your power.
- Keep your dignity
- Don’t do anything that will land
you in the slammer.
Easier said than done, right?
Here’s what you need to do to win
in this situation.
• Don’t say anything until you
have evidence. Don’t go by what
Keneisha said or what you think.
You have to have proof… a receipt,
a text message, a selfie of him and
his side chick. If you don’t have
proof, he will cover his tracks or
worse, go undercover even deeper.
• Never, ever, ever, ever, ever let
him make you feel responsible. A
cheater is responsible for his own
actions. You don’t hold a gun to
his head or make him do anything.
Do not feel you are responsible
and do not allow him to make you
feel that way either. See, that’s
where marriage vows come in… this
living-together thing ya’ll do…
there is no stated commitment,
but when you actually get married,
vows are made.
Back to the tips on how to handle
a cheater…
• Do not give him time to make a
decision. He made a commitment
to you… he does not deserve
options now. You tell him what you
want then and there. If you give
him time to “figure things out,”
you are giving him time to figure
out how to get away with it with
the least amount of effort. Think
things through. Be ready.
• Don’t cry. Of course it will be
hard! You cannot be vulnerable at
this point. Keep your dignity. This
is not a competition. You should
be No. 1, and that’s all there is to
it. No begging. Don’t whine and
say, “Why did you do it?” He did it
because he is weak and
undeserving of a good woman.
Your marriage/relationship is not
negotiable.
• Don’t beat yourself up trying to
figure out why he did it. You are
not responsible for his actions.
Don’t waste your energy on that.
Focus on you now. Decide what you
want and move forward with that.
It’s not going to be easy. You have
to decide what the consequences
will be when you confront a
cheater. It could be the end of a
relationship. Are you ready for
that?